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Failure!!! This seven letter word makes even the valiant of warriors cringe.Only those who have understood its power, thrive on it and dare to sail on its rough wings.Have i ever failed? YES!!! so many times.I  have lost count of my failures in relationships,ideas etc.

But with every dose of failure, i got a double “jolt” of persistence,passion doggedness. Failure does not mean the end of the world,rather it is telling you to look at the other open door.Failure helped me look inwards to find my reason for being.Believe it or not,those down times call for deep meditation.

Instead of throwing in the towel,and giving justified excuses,I built on the causes and deduced these lessons i share with you today.Now it is clear that I went through those trying periods in my life so i could share them and help someone one day.

For instance the lessons I have learnt from my parents’ mistakes, or if you would, failure in their marriage is helping me today.

When you fail,just know that there is always a solution gravitating towards you, and if you keep your attitude right,you will see it.Below are the lessons i learnt during my trying periods.This might not be the same with everyone’s experience, but i know it will help you.

LESSON 1: Never be judgmental.If you were in their shoes and you had the same options you will do the same thing.

LESSON 2: I had the choice to stay down and whine, and look for sympathy,but i realized that the race of life is personal.it is not a “team based” game.Though you will need a team at sometime.But when you find yourself alone in those hours,do not whine.Know it is time for you to fight your fight “ALONE”

LESSON 3: I have the ability to bounce back after every challenge.

LESSON 4: Do not listen to everybody and every advice.Be humble to learn,apologize and accept your mistakes.

LESSON 5: Under-promise and over-deliver.

LESSON 6: Talk less to people about your dreams and visions.Act!!!

LESSON 7: It is not all about money.Render FREE services.It will take you far.Free services and free will giving kills greed.

LESSON 8:Do not ruminate on the wrong things people have said or done to you.It creates “BAD BLOOD:” in your system,and hinders your progress.Believe me, no one is worth that sacrifice.

LESSON 9: God let’s us go through some challenging processes to bring us into his PURPOSE,WILL and DESIRE for our lives.Your obedience will get you there faster.I know.

LESSON 10: It is not all about you.LOOK AROUND!!!

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1. HAVE THE RIGHT PERSPECTIVE:See obstacles as challenges and opportunities for advancement and growth. It matters the way you see!!! In every obstacle there is an opportunity for your promotion. It was the challenge of darkness that brought electricity. It was the obstacle of communication and distance that brought the opportunity of telephone and so on… See with your heart and not your eyes.

2. KNOW YOUR STRENGTHS:know what you are up against, study the problem. During challenging periods, the consciousness of your strengths is a force that will keep your head above water.

Many times, people let themselves get drowned with thoughts of helplessness. Focusing on your strengths gives you a positive outlook and a clear perspective about the problem and its inherent solution. Every problem gravitates to its solution. In every obstacle is a solution. FIND IT!!!

3. REGULATE YOUR ENVIRONMENT: Keep away from negative talkers and push out negative thoughts. Fill your mind with positive thoughts. Listen to uplifting messages, music and people. Choose what and who you listen to.

4. CELEBRATE YOUR PAST SUCCESSES:Doing this will ignite boldness in you. It will give you an I CAN DO MENTALITY. Your past success is a CV for future occurrences in life. It belittles the problem.

5. SEEK DIVINE DIRECTION THROUGH PRAYERS: There is the existence of the spiritual, whether you like it or not, it is true. You have to seek divine guidance to help you overcome challenges.