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Failure!!! This seven letter word makes even the valiant of warriors cringe.Only those who have understood its power, thrive on it and dare to sail on its rough wings.Have i ever failed? YES!!! so many times.I  have lost count of my failures in relationships,ideas etc.

But with every dose of failure, i got a double “jolt” of persistence,passion doggedness. Failure does not mean the end of the world,rather it is telling you to look at the other open door.Failure helped me look inwards to find my reason for being.Believe it or not,those down times call for deep meditation.

Instead of throwing in the towel,and giving justified excuses,I built on the causes and deduced these lessons i share with you today.Now it is clear that I went through those trying periods in my life so i could share them and help someone one day.

For instance the lessons I have learnt from my parents’ mistakes, or if you would, failure in their marriage is helping me today.

When you fail,just know that there is always a solution gravitating towards you, and if you keep your attitude right,you will see it.Below are the lessons i learnt during my trying periods.This might not be the same with everyone’s experience, but i know it will help you.

LESSON 1: Never be judgmental.If you were in their shoes and you had the same options you will do the same thing.

LESSON 2: I had the choice to stay down and whine, and look for sympathy,but i realized that the race of life is personal.it is not a “team based” game.Though you will need a team at sometime.But when you find yourself alone in those hours,do not whine.Know it is time for you to fight your fight “ALONE”

LESSON 3: I have the ability to bounce back after every challenge.

LESSON 4: Do not listen to everybody and every advice.Be humble to learn,apologize and accept your mistakes.

LESSON 5: Under-promise and over-deliver.

LESSON 6: Talk less to people about your dreams and visions.Act!!!

LESSON 7: It is not all about money.Render FREE services.It will take you far.Free services and free will giving kills greed.

LESSON 8:Do not ruminate on the wrong things people have said or done to you.It creates “BAD BLOOD:” in your system,and hinders your progress.Believe me, no one is worth that sacrifice.

LESSON 9: God let’s us go through some challenging processes to bring us into his PURPOSE,WILL and DESIRE for our lives.Your obedience will get you there faster.I know.

LESSON 10: It is not all about you.LOOK AROUND!!!

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1. HAVE THE RIGHT PERSPECTIVE:See obstacles as challenges and opportunities for advancement and growth. It matters the way you see!!! In every obstacle there is an opportunity for your promotion. It was the challenge of darkness that brought electricity. It was the obstacle of communication and distance that brought the opportunity of telephone and so on… See with your heart and not your eyes.

2. KNOW YOUR STRENGTHS:know what you are up against, study the problem. During challenging periods, the consciousness of your strengths is a force that will keep your head above water.

Many times, people let themselves get drowned with thoughts of helplessness. Focusing on your strengths gives you a positive outlook and a clear perspective about the problem and its inherent solution. Every problem gravitates to its solution. In every obstacle is a solution. FIND IT!!!

3. REGULATE YOUR ENVIRONMENT: Keep away from negative talkers and push out negative thoughts. Fill your mind with positive thoughts. Listen to uplifting messages, music and people. Choose what and who you listen to.

4. CELEBRATE YOUR PAST SUCCESSES:Doing this will ignite boldness in you. It will give you an I CAN DO MENTALITY. Your past success is a CV for future occurrences in life. It belittles the problem.

5. SEEK DIVINE DIRECTION THROUGH PRAYERS: There is the existence of the spiritual, whether you like it or not, it is true. You have to seek divine guidance to help you overcome challenges.

Most training courses and motivational materials are replete with leadership counsel and tips, but not all focus on the basic ingredient of leadership, which is FOLLOWERSHIP. I once read somewhere “That he, who should lead amongst you, should first be the chief servant”. How can one who has never served in any capacity or at any level understand what it means to be a servant leader?

Who is a follower? A follower is someone who ardently pursues the principle or vision of a given society or organization with an intention. The following are some attributes of an ardent follower.

1. HE SHOWS APPRECIATION TO HIS LEADERS WITHOUT EXPECTING ANYTHING IN RETURN:In today’s world of quick gratification, this might sound strange because naturally, man is selfish. If you disagree, I want to ask you a question, if your kid and his friend are trapped in a burning house, who will you go for first?

LESSON: A FOLLOWER IS SELFLESS AS THE HUNTER’S DOG IS TO THE MASTER.

2. LOYALTY: As a follower, your loyalty is to your leader. In an organization for instance, It is your duty to find out the vision and mission of the organization and what is expected of you, then you gear up yourself to fit into the big picture and add value to the organization. Loyalty also has to do with making positive impact. Sadly, today, you hardly find loyal staff. People work for pay and not with passion. If you are passionate about the organization where you work, you will stay and give your best even when you are not being paid. Let’s do a loyalty test.

Ask yourself, “IF MY EMPLOYER STOPS PAYING ME TODAY OR CUTS MY SALARY BY 50% DUE TO ECONOMIC HADRSHIP, WILL I STILL PUT IN THE SAME AMOUNT OF WORK, LIKE WHEN I WAS PAID FULL? If your answer is yes, well done. If not fuel your passion.

LESSON: THE HUNTER’S DOG IS LOYAL TO HIS MASTER EVEN IF IT’S BEATEN AND DENIED FOOD.

3. OBEDIENCE: Obedience is a matter of choice. It is a conscious conditioning of the human mind and the spirit to conform to the laid down rules and regulation of a given society or organization. Obedience can be based on incentives.

LESSON: THE HUNTER’S DOG IS OBEDIENT TO HIS MASTER’S CALL EVEN WITHOUT INCENTIVES.

4. HE IS TRUSTWORTHY: As a follower, or an employee, can your boss trust you to do your job when he is not around? Does he trust you to fly the flag of the organization high anywhere you go? Or does he need to issue threats of sack or offer you incentives before you perform?Trust is a basic factor of life. Trust is earned. You have to prove yourself worthy to be trusted. Can the society or the organization trust you with its finance?

LESSON: THE HUNTER’S DOG IS TRUSTWORTHY, THAT IS WHY ITS MASTER ENTRUSTS IT WITH THE SAFETY OF HIS HOUSEHOLD AND EVEN ALLOWS IT BY HIS SIDE ALWAYS.

5. HE IS A DEFENDER: An ardent follower is always ready to defend the integrity of his nation, organization or employer anywhere you go. Do not be the one to tear down the fabrics of your organization or nation with your words or actions.Be ready to defend the integrity of your country especially, when it will cost you something. By defending the integrity, I mean being a symbol of what your country or organization stands for.

LESSON: THE HUNTER’S DOG DEFENDS HIS MASTER WITH HIS LIFE, WHEN THE NEED ARISES.

6. RELATIONSHIP BUILDER: Effective communication is a requirement for fostering cordial relationships in every sphere of life.Respect begets respect, criticism begets resentment. Respectfully air your views and constructively communicate your disagreement. Disagreements, if properly handled will not degenerate into arguments.Always smile when presenting your points. A smiling face calms a boiling heart. When you smile, you send a signal of peace to your body system and to those listening to you. Also, watch your body language, it can send the wrong signals.

LESSON: THE HUNTER’S DOG IS A FRIEND TO EVERY MEMBER OF THE HUNTER’S FAMILY